Trying to conceive through assisted means because you need a donor or are struggling with infertility can be overwhelming emotionally, financially, and logistically. There are many excellent specialists you might work with, each offering expertise in their own area. As a doula, I do not replace those specialists but am the one person who will look at the whole picture with you. I understand the medical, legal, and financial systems you need to navigate as well as the emotional ups and downs. Working together, you can feel more prepared, confident, and ready to advocate for yourself.
Preconception Care
"Meghan helped us feel informed, empowered, and never alone.
My partner and I had so many questions around this overwhelming IUI and IVF journey. Meghan guided us and helped us understand the process in a way that felt less overwhelming. We are so grateful for her presence during such an emotional and uncertain time."
-Hinesburg family
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Do you want to grow your family, but know it will be more complicated than just trying at home? Together we can explore what options might be available for you based on your unique circumstances, history, and goals. Perfect for queer families or single parents by choice who need a donor.
Let's organize the jumble of thoughts, questions, and concerns into an actionable plan.
Planning for Kids When You Need a Donor
I offer a package for six months of continuous doula support for those with infertility or utilizing donors to conceive. The package is designed to support as you plan, pursue, and move through fertility treatment. Sustained care offers continuity during a journey that often feels fragmented.
You are not expected to know what you will need in advance — the structure flexes so you can focus on caring for yourself.
Someone to walk with you
The Planning Support Package is a focused, time-bound offering designed to help you orient yourself and make informed decisions before, or alongside, medical care. Through an in-depth, two-hour private consultation, we’ll talk through your history, priorities, values, and goals. I’ll then translate that conversation into a personalized Next Steps Plan. Rather than spending hours researching, comparing options, or trying to determine what applies to your situation, you’ll receive thoughtful, relevant guidance tailored specifically to you, so you can focus on making decisions that feel right.
Donor Planning Support Package
Frequently Asked Questions
- A private, two-hour consultation to explore options and possibilities around your baby-making goals
- A personalized Next Steps roadmap within one week of our conversation designed to help you move forward with clarity and confidence
- Referrals to local providers, support groups, and trusted resources tailored to your values, interests, and situation
- Text or email support between our meeting and plan delivery to clarify details
- One round of feedback or edits to ensure the plan reflects your needs
Our meetings are shaped by where you are emotionally, medically, and practically at any given moment.
At different times, my role may include:
- Being a steady presence at medical appointments, offering emotional grounding, note-taking, and help processing information afterward
- Mentoring you as you explore options and make decisions that align with your values and goals
- Coaching you through hormone injections, procedures, or conversations where you need to self-advocate with providers
- Acting as a project manager when the logistics of trying to conceive feel overwhelming and hard to track
During high intensity months, we may meet weekly or cluster meetings around procedures. Between trying to conceive cycles or during waiting periods, support often becomes quieter and more reflective. The rhythm is guided by what will be most supportive for you.
Trying to Conceive Support Package
Frequently Asked Questions
During quieter times like testing, recovery, or waiting periods, clients receive foundational support. This is 10 hours of dedicated support, covering things like:
- One structured monthly check-in
- Research, resources, and education into areas that will help you move forward
- Appointment attendance, notes, and debrief conversations
- Expanded availability and response times by phone, text, and email
- Weekly or bi-weekly meetings to connect and gameplan
- Prioritized time-sensitive research and next steps conversations so that you have the information needed to feel informed and assured in your decision-making ASAP
- On-call for appointment and procedure attendance, including early mornings or weekends as needed
Virtual appointments are also available, with flexibility for evenings or weekends as needed, especially during more intense months.
Total cost of the six-month package depends on the amount of support received. Every journey is different. Each month you can select between 10, 20, or 40 hours of support. In the simplest terms, support is $30 an hour, so a month with 10 hours of support costs $300, 20 hours costs $600, and 40 hours costs $1200.
Once engaged, I collect a deposit fee and payments are made on a monthly basis.
Honestly, I get it. Fertility treatments are really expensive, even if you have insurance. Frozen donor gametes are insanely priced. It's not fair that you can't just try at home, for free, like other people can. I have been there myself.
Regardless of how you decide to try to conceive, you will have to look at every decision and weigh each option against cost, time, and amount of work. My doula services come with a cost, but I truly believe will help you feel empowered and save you time and effort in the end. I also try to save you money along the way by making sure you're aware of lower cost options and tactics you might not have considered for saving money. I've learned what to consider and when, so that you don't have to.
All that being said, if cost is the reason you might not connect with me, please reach out anyway. I offer a sliding scale so I can support people with different financial situations. If money is less of a consideration for you, please consider a donation to my community fund to help offset discounted services for those who need it most. Payment plans or alternative arrangements can be discussed on a case-by-case basis.
Doula support continues in early pregnancy and through pregnancy loss. Increased support following pregnancy loss (including presence at treatments and in home after-care) may be available at no additional cost through the community fund.
Do I need to have medical infertility to receive support? What about people in LGBTQI+ communities and single parents by choice?
You do not need a medical infertility diagnosis to benefit from preconception doula support. Many people I work with have no known fertility issues apart from needing a donor to conceive. As a queer mom who explored all paths myself, I love helping clients navigate all the choices! I support those hoping to use known donors as well as bank donors, those considering at-home ICI or IUI inseminations as well as those seeking clinic provided care. I support all avenues for in-clinic IUI, IVF, or reverse IVF and help you advocate for the protocol most in line with your body and goals.
Absolutely. Doula support is available to individuals acting as egg donors and gestational surrogates. Care may include emotional guidance, help navigating appointments and procedures, and logistical coordination specific to your role. If you only need support for a single treatment cycle rather than the full six-month package, you are welcome to reach out to discuss a focused, one-cycle arrangement. If you are not the patient, but would like to arrange support for yourself or for a donor or gestational carrier who is working with your family, please reach out to discuss options.
Trying to conceive support is most effective when it is continuous and adaptable. Shorter packages make it difficult to provide consistent emotional support, prepare for procedures, and respond to the unpredictable nature of conception using donors and fertility treatments. A six-month structure allows for continuity, trust, and responsive care across both months where you are actively trying to conceive and waiting periods.
Yes. If your fertility journey extends beyond the initial six months, you are welcome to enroll in an additional six-month package to maintain continuity of care without interruption. Options for 3 month packages can be discussed on a case by case basis at that point.